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Dear Dickhead, Virginie Despentes
Dear Dickhead, Virginie Despentes
2025
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A New Yorker best book of 2024 | A Financial Times Best Translated Book of 2024
Library Science September book club pick | A Vulture most anticipated book
One of The New York Times’ 24 works of fiction to read of fall 2024 | A Guardian best translated fiction pick | A Town & Country must-read fall book
“It’s a thrill to hear the characters develop on the page . . . One of the better portrayals of addiction I’ve encountered in literature, up there with books by Jean Rhys and Leslie Jamison.” ―Joumana Khatib, The New York Times Book Review
“Engrossing . . . Full of emotional suspense.” ―Pamela Druckerman, Financial Times
The French novel taking the world by storm: an ultracontemporary Dangerous Liaisons about sex, feminism, and addiction.
Dear Dickhead,
I read your post on Insta. You’re like a pigeon shitting on my shoulder as you flap past. It’s shitty and unpleasant. Waah, waah, waah, I’m a pissy little pantywaist, no one loves me so I whimper like a Chihuahua in the hope someone will notice me. Congratulations: you’ve got your fifteen minutes of fame! You want proof? I’m writing to you.
Oscar is a B-list novelist in his forties. He used to be an alcoholic and a cokehead, but now he keeps himself busy by ranting on social media. When Rebecca, an actress whose looks he insulted, sends him an angry email, they strike up a combative correspondence―at the very moment that Oscar is accused of sexual harassment by his former publicist. What ensues is a no-holds-barred conversation about life under the patriarchy, and above all about addiction―to drugs, to alcohol, to the internet, to rage.
Virginie Despentes, the celebrated author of King Kong Theory, has written her breakthrough book: a Dangerous Liaisons for our time. We follow Rebecca and Oscar as they develop an unlikely friendship and argue over questions of right and wrong in a city―Paris―where pleasure, excess, and freedom rule the day, or used to. Dear Dickhead is a guns-blazing novel about a culture that makes men and women sick, and about how the search for feeling leaves us addicted to what makes us feel. The result is a provocative and unmissable book from the author hailed by The Guardian as France’s “rock and roll Zola.”
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